But when you want so badly to get some insight and have them finally talking how do you get away from that? That's been my hardest thing. It's like I want to make one point or something but I can't help get into a longer conversation where it seems like I do most of the talking. Detaching? Walking away? Prepare mentally? Ideas if y'all have any please:) I struggle with this constantly.
I am not sure what you are asking exactly. Are you asking how do you get her to talk? Or how do you get to make another point that she does not want to hear?
And I am not sure why are you still talking about making a point? She is not going to be able to hear you right now because it's not about you, C. It really isnt.
And I am not sure what insight you hope to get. Because it doesnt matter. It really doesnt. Right now she does not want to be in this marriage. That's really all you need to know. The reasons why are hers. Knowing anything else is not going to change things.
And if you are doing most of the talking, I'm thinking she is not ready to talk.
The way to deal with this C, is to really and truly believe with every ounce of your being that this is her journey. That there is nothing you can say to make her change her mind. That is doesnt matter why she feels the way she does right now because either way you are going to become the best person you can be.
And then do it.
The ultimate act of love is letting go.
And once you really do, you will begin to see that you do not need to engage her in conversations, you do not need to make a point, you do not need to worry about whether what you are doing or saying is affecting her.
Then and only then will you be detached and you are really beginning your journey.
