Leo welcome. Very sad you are here. You sound like a great person. You say H just tolerates you because he can't be on his own? Care to elaborate?

If you can afford a DB coach go for it. They can be very helpful.

KarenR come on. Stop targeting the vulnerable ones. Let her be for a while. Some can not afford it. As a clinician I'm offended and concerned.

M 53
D 20
Separated 6/22/11 moved out 10/24
Together 26 yrs
Married 16
W Filed for D 7/21/11
Served 9/6/11
D final 8/28/12

“Failure is not fatal, but failure to change might be.”

John Wooden