my W and I still share an email account for stuff realting to our kids etc

In the various folders that we have i found a folder called notes...its just a standard gmail account.

I found these notes on there.
She wrote this 3 weeks ago

I have made the right decision
Our relationship really was emotionally abusive

His behaviour now is in character but how long will it last

It is time to cut the ties

I have not been happy

My boys will be better off with two patents who love them separately rather than the mess we had before


She then wrote this 3 days ago

I need to get my life together
I need to be strong and happy


The first one hurts to read. The second one tells me that she is really trying to get on with her life.

Everyday I get closer to giving up. I am so sorry for making her feel and think that our R was "emotionally abusive", i dont think she can ever go back.


Me - 37
W - 37
M -5
T - 15

S=5
S=3

Seperated - 12/12
BD - 20/03/13
Still seperated - no R or M talk yet.