My Story - Need Advice (Thread 2)

[cbtdad]

Sorry to hijack ChrisN, but I have a question for Urworthy and acc about this. Maybe they have some insight, maybe they don't. But here it goes:

I understand what both of you are saying about leaning out so they can lean in. As well keeping answers short, etc, etc
But when you want so badly to get some insight and have them finally talking how do you get away from that? That's been my hardest thing. It's like I want to make one point or something but I can't help get into a longer conversation where it seems like I do most of the talking.
Detaching? Walking away? Prepare mentally?
Ideas if y'all have any please:) I struggle with this constantly