First Post--2d troubled marriage

[2X Divorcee?]

Oh, understand. Will do. You'll see my earlier posts that I had to deal with conflicting info. I stuck with DB coach advise and DR advice. This book I'm getting sounds like its about me and what I do in relationships. I'll be sure not to try to apply anything to the current sitch. Like I said, I think this is important given several relationships that have gone bad for me. I think I attract "needy" women and feed into that (enable it) which seems to be a death spiral. I know with my STBXW I did all sorts of things for her when we were dating and after we got married...carried lunches/coffee to her at work, took care of her car, her yard, her pets, helped her financially, cooked meals, shipped boxes to her all the time while she was deployed...on and on. Times were good and I felt mostly appreciated, but now she seems to have forgotten all of that.

Right now, I'm resisting the temptation to call her and tell her her car is due for an oil change and the air filters at the house need to be changed too....I'm not going to do it...let her do it!!