I can hear you. Ain't it crazy? Actually our situation has a number of similarities - I also was a stay-at-home-dad for some (too much) time, we also have twins though first kids in my case and last ones for you.
You know - it ain't over 'til you declare it to be over. Divorce is just a legal act documented on some paper. Nobody forbids you to go on DBing after D, to the contrary. Maybe you have seen Crimson's thread. He is long past D - and now piecing.
