The big lockout will probably occur shortly, so I'll go ahead and start the next one. But here's the link to my previous thread: Fish are friends. Not food.
"Let us all say the pledge:
I am a nice shark, not a mindless eating machine. If I am to change this image, I must first change myself. Fish are friends. Not food.
Today's meeting is Step 5: Bring a fish friend.
I'll start the testimonies. It's been 3 weeks since my last fish, on my honor, or may I be chopped up and made into soup."
I'm still a shark and I still want to dine on some fish occasionally. Particularly one little fish named Mr. Wonderful.
We've made a lot of progress but still need to keep swimming. So that's going to continue to be my mantra in this next chapter.
TTFN,
Betsey
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
Well, having some time alone in the car on my way back from the airport (which is practically located in Kansas), I allowed my left brain to speak up.
BTW, I started The Power of Now last night... so far, so good. It's started my wheels turning! I'm also thinking about loaning it to my fish friend when I'm done.
Anyway, here's my thoughts on where things are with Mr. Wonderful. After dropping the latest bomb on Tuesday evening (about moving into a bigger apartment), I've noticed him backing off from me: sporadic and inconsistent eye contact, distant posturing, muttering, etc. Typical MLC stuff that I've seen before.
I'm wondering if this is what John Gray categorizes as the rubber band theory? Although I hardly think that we are his idea of model subjects, it's on my mind.
I also realize that we need to get back in to MC in the near future so he doesn't have too much time to NOT think about things without a plan of action (my fish friend has been swimming aimlessly for a very long time).
To update, we had started individual sessions at the end of August and were rotating with MC on some personal issues that each one of us had. Mr. W. had one scheduled at the end of September, which our MC had to cancel/postpone... he left Mr. W. a voicemail message and asked him to return the call, which he never did. I have left that alone. Periodically, MC sends me an e-mail to see how things are going.
I also realize that the rubber band is going to have to be pulled hard so it can snap back to me with some more momentum than in the past before MC suggestion can be posed.
Here's the nuts and bolts. Mr. W. has the girls this weekend. He usually brings them back home on Sunday afternoon. I don't know what on earth he has planned for them while they move him into the bigger place...
I'm wondering if I should make arrangements to pick the girls up at the new cave (I've never been invited and I don't even know where he lives!) AND bring him a welcome wagon act of service in the form of a complete dinner--and also include a small gift?
What do you all think might happen if I were to do such a thing?
Input welcome by all.
Betsey
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
My suggestion is this: When Mr. W comes by to pick up the girls, as he's leaving, you say "Would you like me to pick them up Sunday afternoon?" If he says "sure" then you can get directions and so forth and then say "Listen, I'll be happy to bring dinner if you think that would help - I know moving can be such a pain." And leave it at that...If he accepts, great, if he doesn't, no big deal b/c he's just got his head stuck further up his fish butt than you thought.
