Taking a step back-a fresh start

[cbtdad]

Thank you for those words Urworthy! Wish I would have seen your post before responding to my wife. She did reply back finally and said, "I understand, you don't have to be an a$$ about it"
My response:
"I realize what I sent earlier was kinda harsh W. I apologize for it. But I am so exhausted and upset at this point. For the past 3 nights he wakes 4 or 5 times a night crying and saying "I want momma"
It's wearing on me big time.
I know you have been gone this long before, but that was in his familiar surroundings. I think this is just a lot tougher on him with everything else going on.
I know you dot want to be away from him this long either and I'm not saying that. I just needed to get this out because it is building a lot of anger in me. The other stuff are your choices and your life and that's your decisions to make
But I'm the one here with him and seeing the results of him not seeing you for this long. I truly hope you understand where I am coming from with this."



So now you can see I really wish I would have see your post before that. Lol
I did try to respond without and "low blows" and to just get my point across about why I was upset. Oh well, I sent already.
Anyways, Urworthy it's time to change my thought process. You are so right. I need realize that not only can I not control her doing things and I can't control how I want her to think as well. I will reread your post 5 times a day until she returns home. Thank you