Weird scenario

[Papa4Life]

Whoops, looks like we've got another good example of the kinds of things that you can say to your W to just push her away even more.

Let's start with mistake #1. Do not send your W e-maii or texts or call her!
Mistake #2: No R talk unless SHE initiates it.
Wait a minute, I can save us both some time by just urging you - imploring you - to go look up sandi2's 37 rules for DBing, print it out, learn it, and live it. I'll wait while you go do that. Go, go,go...

Okay, let's proceed. Now that you've memorized the 37 rules, let's jump to:
Mistake #38: do not tell your W how she feels. As if somehow you can read her mind and tell her what she's thinking and what she should do to "fix" her feelings.
And finally:
Mistake #39: why are you sending your W e-mail?!? You should be too busy working on yourself, GAL, and building up your self-esteem and PMA to have time to write her e-mails!

Jeack, I applaud your willingness to reconcile with your W. But as the resident expert in how NOT to DB, I can tell you from experience that the full court press technique isn't gonna work. In fact it's totally counter productive. If your W somehow could have been talked out of a D, she would've talked HERSELF out of it by now. It's time to put down the b-ball and start practicing ju jitsu. You've got to let your W's inertia W against her. She is leaning out, expecting you to pull her back. So what happens if you just let go? She might fall on her backside and feel pretty foolish, especially because it was her own actions that landed her there. Is there a chance that once you let her go she'll just run away? Yeah. Sadly it won't work out for everybody. But if you work on detaching now, there's a good chance she'll realize that she could fall flat and maybe that will make her rethink her deciaion. But you've GOT to start letting go now, otherwise she's just gonna get sick of the game and then she really will run away. And not look back.

C'mon, pal. You can do this. You are in control here. Don't expect anything at all from W. It's all on you. We're here for you the next time you've written another e-mail. Post it here first before you hot send and we'll remind you why that's not such a hot idea.