I want to tell you something I learned in all this. Now I've got a hard head so it took some time. Mach, not a word - LOL!
I used to get real upset at my h. How could he not see what this was doing to our son? How can he move 5 hours away and not want to see him all the time? I just didnt get it. Now my son was alot older than yours. But they were close and it was just the 3 of us.
So, I would say things and text him things. Trying so hard to get it through his head that he was wrong. I would do it over and over again.
Until one day my therapist said to me -so how is that working for you? I said, well, it's like I am talking to a rock.
Yea, and?
Here's the thing. You cant make another person care in the way that you think they should. Doesnt mean you are right or wrong. It just makes it your opinion.
Everyone, including your w, has a right to act however they choose. You dont have to like it, but, you have to respect it.
It is your opinion that she should come and see him.
It is her right to decide if she should.
I get that you are frustrated and sad for your son.
But it is what is right now.
And you can either continue to fight with her on what you think you should do or you can do the very best you can for your son.
Your choice.
Trust me when I tell you that the spinning around and the trying to get her to see over and over again doesnt work..
All it gets you is dizzy, C.
You told her that your son cries for her. She heard it, right? No need to say it again.
It is now HER decision what to do about it.
As it is your decision on how to do right by your son.
He is watching you, C. I work with 3 and 4 year olds. They dont miss much.
You get to show him how to navigate through life's turmoils with either dingity and courage or anger and self righteousness,
