If you've decided to land on "bitter" that's up to you. You won't get anyone saying you don't deserve to be bitter after what you're going through. But like Bug said, one person can decide to just step off that cycle. (They don't have to, they can choose to stay bitter and resentful, or they may never see it as a choice or decision and they then stay bitter because they don't see an alternative.)
This is a safe place to vent, but the fact that your house is better than hers didn't sound like venting. I thought it might be worth challenging your thinking a little on that.
Adinva 51, S20, S18 M24 total 6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out 9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50 5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend __ Happiness is a warm puppy.
