I guess the frustrating part is that I feel like I'm the only one working on this. She says she wants to work on it but when it comes to the actual work she bails.
We've actually done some of what was suggested. We set goals of what we wanted to accomplish, I've showered her with attention, bought her romantic gift every month for a year. Nothing seems to work, she appreciates the gifts. But that the end of it. BTW, I can not tell you the last time she got me a gift.
She always seems to sub-consciously know when I’m about to ask for ML and she gets a head ache or a stomach ache or needs a nap. Which is an interesting story…I found an article a couple of years ago which stated that ML was a good cure for headaches, I (in jest) sent it to her. We had a good laugh and strangely she stopped getting headaches but had a sudden increase in stomach aches. Well I’m not the smartest guy around but it seemed obvious to me that she was avoiding me.
The only time she initiates (which is the only time we have ML since she rejects me every time) is when (in my opinion) she feels guilty. Sorry but I’m at a point where sympathy sex is not attractive. The last few times I simply lost interest during sex and “faked” my way through…yes a guy can fake it.
This is not what I thought being married would be like.
