Another great night with D3 last night. Back to the local neighborhood "tavern" (feels cleaner to say then BAR) for a surprise party for my friends wife. D3 and I were practicing saying "Surprise" all day............in the end she shy'd out
So she had a slice of Pizza and a big glass of milk (a a huge side cup of olives)I had pizza and wings and a few Diet pepsi's with lime.
please note I said "a few Diet Pepsi's with lime"
Im not a regular consumer of soda- next thing i know its 11:30 pm and im just beginning to feel drowsy
I couldnt get out of bed at 4:50 this morning. I didnt exercise this AM. Its OK- Ill get my walk in this afternoon and get back on schedule tomorrow morning.
The W is back at the house the next three nights- It [censored]. Its funny that when she is at the house she is wearing all of her pre-bomb drop clothing. She is suddenly "young and hip" and wearing skinny jeans with special washes that requires her to turn them inside out before washing- This is not the same woman who used to buy clothing for quality- not style
W now thinks that she will be able to improve the bond with her D by calling my cell every night to say "goodnight". Every night D3 has no desire to talk to Mommy and keeps saying no- This has gone on the last week .....painful to be in the middle of.
Last night D3 said to me "I miss Mommy, I love Mommy.....do you?" I said "Yes I miss Mommy and love her too"
Its the truth- and made D3 smile
ME 38 W 37 T18 M5 D3 BD 1/7/13 PA Conf 2/11/13- Ongoing 2nd simultaneous affair Confirmed 4/19/13 W gets APT and begins transition out 5/29/13 First mediation appt 12/19/13
Sounds like you had a great time! Your doing amazing! Keep it up :-)
M46,W41 D16,D18 M22,T25 BD 11/12 W moved out 01/13 Piecing 10/13 Divorced 01/15 "Whether you worry or not has no affect on the outcome. But, moving forward, letting go, and making changes can." UrWorthy
PS, I really admire how your spending so much time with your D. You will both benefit from the time spent together, I promise you that! How is your journey for you going?
M46,W41 D16,D18 M22,T25 BD 11/12 W moved out 01/13 Piecing 10/13 Divorced 01/15 "Whether you worry or not has no affect on the outcome. But, moving forward, letting go, and making changes can." UrWorthy
Last night I went home and decided to reach into my super wizard bag of tricks and toss her a 180
The last two months ive been dark gray- Cant be dark because she is still in the house part time. Im not going to get anywhere (nor do I want to) if she is having an affair......
so
I walked in the house, gave D3 a hug and a smooch on the head, then complimented my wife for an amazing dinner she made last week (I wasnt home but I had the leftovers on Sat)
Then I left and went to a mtg I didnt see her at all last night
Guess who woke up early this morning to exercise with me??????? Guess who was sweet as pie this AM to me???????? Guess who sent me a email this morning titled "interesting activity for Sunday" (Still confused because she isnt to be at the house on Sunday)?????
Yes the W
So- now that youve read this...please repeat after me-
IT MEANS NOTHING! IM NOT A MINDREADER!
Peace and love to all you awesome folks in the same jam is me
ME 38 W 37 T18 M5 D3 BD 1/7/13 PA Conf 2/11/13- Ongoing 2nd simultaneous affair Confirmed 4/19/13 W gets APT and begins transition out 5/29/13 First mediation appt 12/19/13
PSpin, You my new friend... are a freaking Rock Star! I just read up on your sitch. You have one very lucky little D to have a Dad like you. Your W is pretty lucky too (here's hoping she'll remember that.)
Looks like we're both at the same point in our sitch's where the WAW's are sniffing around and testing the water.
Weird, weird, weird right? We wait for these types of interactions and then have trouble believing in them when they happen. We've put in too much time and work to begin heal ourselves to go back. I think the W's are noticing and afraid of being left behind themselves.
Congrats on meeting some amazing goals! (school, weight, credit)
Check in on ya later!
Me(F):40 WAW:44 T:13yrs M:9yrs BD:2/12 (I saw a text) ILYBINILWY: 5/12 PA admission: 12/12 (began 3/11) S:2/13 Moves in w/AP D begins: 7/13 W moves home to R: 10/13
PS, Your positive attitude is infectious! Thank you for that!
M46,W41 D16,D18 M22,T25 BD 11/12 W moved out 01/13 Piecing 10/13 Divorced 01/15 "Whether you worry or not has no affect on the outcome. But, moving forward, letting go, and making changes can." UrWorthy
Day 3 with the W staying at the house. I am staying out late tonight.......
Another odd night last evening. After I tuck D3 in I walk downstairs and hear some strange sounds....I walk in my large living room and my wife is sitting on the edge of the couch, in the far corner of the room, in the complete darkness- her face aglow from the itouch light. I ask her what she is doing and she says "Working on my french". What is that sound? she says "When I get an answer right".
I say goodnight and I walk up to my bedroom for the evening (Its 7:45pm). I write in my journal, read and get some early shut eye
I wake up at 5:20 and there is D3 snuggled up next to me snooooooooooring away - no idea she was there
I had a therapy appt last night and she shared with me that as a therapist when she says a spouse suddenly announces they no longer have "those" feelings towards their spouse 70% of the time their is an affair. I so remember her eyes popping out when I told her of the ILYBNILWY the first time....Yet i was another fool who stubbornly and passionately defended their wife.
I hope to god that everyone who reads this are the 30%.
My wife commented twice about how great I looked this morning. She also tried on another new skin tight size 6 dress in front of me asking for my feedback. WHY DOES SHE DO THIS?
I told her she looked great and walked away.
I am nothing more then my wifes daughters babysitter......and I LOVE that role
Happy Friday to y'all - keep busting away!
ME 38 W 37 T18 M5 D3 BD 1/7/13 PA Conf 2/11/13- Ongoing 2nd simultaneous affair Confirmed 4/19/13 W gets APT and begins transition out 5/29/13 First mediation appt 12/19/13
M46,W41 D16,D18 M22,T25 BD 11/12 W moved out 01/13 Piecing 10/13 Divorced 01/15 "Whether you worry or not has no affect on the outcome. But, moving forward, letting go, and making changes can." UrWorthy
