I couldn't agree with you more. I think I was emotionally abusive cause I felt like I was the only trying in the relationship and I always had to walk on eggshells cause I know if I told her things that were bothering me she would leave and run
You agree with Adinva, then immediately blame your emotional abuse on your W again (you did it because SHE wasn't trying in the R). Read her post again:
Quote:
When you said you were emotionally abusive, you were very quick to point the finger back at her and say she was too. I think if this experience is a wake up call to you, you might turn all your attention off your W and begin to figure out what emotional abuse is, and why you did it, and how you can learn to never ever do that to another human being again, no matter what excuses you think justify it. And not to accept it when you hear it from someone else. And why you are so angry that you are out of control of your own behavior. Learn to feel and own your emotions, all of them, and stop using them as excuses to do bad things.
That should be enough to keep you very busy, without a moment to text your W or call her a whore.
I don't sense from your posts that you feel good about lashing out at your W. It didn't make you feel better and it certainly did not draw her closer. So please recognize it as the damaging behavior that it is, behavior that is COMPLETELY under your control. You have the power to change it. This is a 180 that needs to be your top priority.
