Thank you all for encouraging me to continue fighting for what the boys and I need/want. Why can't my STBX just do the right thing? (Rhetorical question) He hasn't paid May support. He has always paid on time since I've been paying the mortgage which is in his name. The paper trail is important in order for me to refi in my own name when the D is final. He knows this, so this is likely another control move on his part. All of this game playing is so unnecessary. I'm just living my life, working hard and caring for the boys. I don't understand the control and punishment aspect of this at all. I don't meddle in his life. Why the need to create difficulties for me?
