For your response, unless you've already sent it, how about: "Can the 2 of us talk about S16 without L?"

In my area, mediators aren't always Ls and they're usually less costly.

The other sounds preachy to me.

Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss