Journalling - I want to keep a sense of what changes in my sitch and the following (although focused on XH) represents more of the change that i saw starting on D day.
D17 and S14 are at home sick. XH rings D17 at 3.30pm to ask if he can bring specialty pastries from a little bakery we always frequented.
He asks her what she wants and then what S14 wants. He then asks her what mummy wants.
I was staggered. This is a man who has been spewing and spitting and hating me for the last 4-5 months. A week ago, he called me a "bunny boiler".
He came over with 3 pastries for each of us (yeah, I know BF, more spending of our money!) and was friendly and chatty.
He came into the kitchen where i was keeping out of his way and spoke to me. Even accepted a drink of water (big change!). He kept trying to include me in his interaction with the kids.
When he was leaving he said goodbye to the kids and then hung around at the door for so long that I eventually called out "Bye and thanks for the pastries". He responded in a friendly way. Said he would call again tomorrow.
Just like old times - but then again, so not.
Mildly interested in what's going to happen next. But no longer over-excited. Just keeping a weather-eye on.
