Can anyone help explain why the mlcer does the relationship checks? It seems so unfair.

This morning, the boys and I were at the breakfast table when S9 asked about the post on fbook that asks you to like/share if you love Jesus, keep scrolling if you love the devil. He asked what I did. I told him I don't get those but he shouldn't feel guilty if he keeps scrolling. He, of course, says he loves Jesus and hits like. Fine. Then he goes on to say he loves Jesus more than anybody, including me, mommy, etc., and asks if I do. I told him that I love Jesus as much as possible, but I'm not sure I'm capable of loving Him more than them. And, that I thought He understood that. Lo and behold, W starts doing exaggerated throat clearing from the bathroom. I laugh and ask if she needs me to do the heimlich. She responds with, hello! I then say, and mommy, I love all three of you as much as my heart can love.

It's so unfair that my feelings and heart have been, and continue to be, stepped on, while W can do status checks as often as she likes. Is it part of their being unsure? Confirming we're where they left us?


M - 42
W- 37
S's - 9,6
M-12
T-14
FIL- diagnosed with fatal disease spring 2011
ILYBNILWY - march '12
FIL - died jan '13
W Moved out week later