It definitely sounds like she was fishing and is not satisfied with the status quo of her R with your H.
Even more interesting times may well be on the horizon for you, be sure you're buckled up.
No matter what, you have a shining moment for yourself in the way you handled the OW convo.
(My wonderfuljob boss has the same name as OW... when I went for the interview and her assistant said "Lets go talk to ____" I thought, Talk to ____? I don't want to talk to _____! I want to run _____ over with my car!!)
Me 46 H 56 M 22 yrs S22, D20, Twin Ss18
You teach people how to treat you by what you allow. What you stop. And what you reinforce. ~~~~~~~ A lack of boundaries invites a lack of respect.