Working on saving my marriage, again

[Lonely Room]

Thank you Inside Out and labug.

I work 9am to 5pm and usually get home around 6pm. I do the food, house cleaning and entertain our baby until he goes to sleep at 8pm. This includes bathing, playing, etc.. Lately my wife started helping with the bath also. My wife takes care of the washing and the dishes.

Indeed, house duties have been a big source of arguments between my wife and myself in the recent past. I felt snowed under and with no time for myself. This, alongside the problems I was having at work, turned me sad and a bit angry. She agreed to take up more responsibilities like cooking from time to time and also doing part of the cleaning.

Also, it was my perception that my wife takes decisions about our child without considering my opinion. This involves childcare, sleeping habits, etc.. When she lays those decisions on me I feel neglected and, again, sad and angry. This was also the source of a few arguments.

She fully supports my decision to re-start martial arts training and go out with friends, she actually suggested it a few times. I don't know if she does it so that I improve or so that she gets me out of the house because she doesn't like my presence.

I have been very dedicated to fix this problem and I think my wife is noticing. My only fear is that the damage is too much, like it was before, and that she eventually will find out, if she didn't find already, that she doesn't care for me any more and can't stand my presence.

Fear is a very strong feeling and it's slowing getting me down right now, I'm afraid that fear will mine my strong will to be more cheerful and a better company for my wife.

Thank you all again.