Crazy little thing called MLC

[reachingHigher]

Hi Raine!

This does sound positive, although like snodderly said, you have to maintain no expectations and it does sound like you are doing that.

It sounds like your H needs space, even if it comes to legal separation but he still wants to maintain contact with you, if not connection at this time.

I always felt like my H and I didn't have a chance until he worked on himself first. And I think that is true, but all woven through that process are the threads of being part of the fabric of the family. It just really can't be totally separated.

I do not get any feeling that he wants to reconnect with me, just that we are best friends. I get more of the sense that he is taking charge of his life and changing things that he is not happy about. I know he feels he has been stagnant, wasting his life for the past 6 months and he needs to take control of it. I have zero sense that this means anything more than getting his life back into a place he isn't so disgusted with himself and taking full ownership of himself. I feel like this may move more towards legal separation not reconciliation. Maybe I'm too much of a realist now.

^ ^ ^ ^ ^ ^ But do remember that you will be last. My H is "connecting" with me in a lot of ways but not "in love" really. I sense it could happen, we just have to stay the path and keep growing and loving.....and growing and loving...

Hugs,
rH