The past few months have been okay....and well thats about it. I ve been so busy working and keeping myself busy that mentally and physically Im starting to show some wear and tear. The past few days I have felt like crud and when I try to talk to my H about it he gets very snappy with me.
H has had some positive changes but at the same time our core problems have not changed, H still does not really like me and I feel that he tolerates me only because he cannot live on his own (as in he cant afford to, not because he is physically incapable or anything)
I have talked to him about this in the past only to have him snap/yell/be sarcastic with me and I cant think of a way to effectively get my message across to him that I dont want to be treated like this and I dont want to be consigned to a loveless/sexless marriage (going on 8 months now)
Its simply too lonely for me and I am thinking about returning home to the USA for an undecided amount of time. I dont plan to divorce, still dont want it, but I dont want to be mistreated and I dont want my H to think that being complacent with our sitch is okay.
I am short on ideas and I dont know what I can do to keep more postitive changes coming my way. H seems to be complacent with the sitch and doesnt want to do much for his depression (one of our major issues) but doesnt want to initiate anything with me.
Does anyone have any advice or ideas?
So far what has worked for me is: *doing things on my own without asking or telling me H my plans, being spontaneous and enjoying my time with friends. *Keeping myself busy in the home (though im not there so often anymore due to work) and engaging in my hobbies in his presence. Keeps conversations to a minimum and light and pleasant. *Not questioning my H about anything other than basics (what do you want for dinner, ect) *Letting him know that I am okay with leaving if that is what he really wants and that I am prepared to go home at anytime.
I just have no idea what to do next and I am getting discouraged....
