Keep on, keeping on!

[azguy]

I just laid out the facts and said something like 'I know it's been hard for you to work so much and I just want to make sure you're aware and on board with d18's plan and the expense'. He just said 'she's knows how much she's getting from us'. I didn't see where there was anywhere else to convey my interest in his input... I dropped it based on his lack of input. If I pried any more it would've seemed like I was stressing about it, which is my default and what he would expect.

This is something I really struggle with. It seems to me if you want his input, you should ask for it in an open-ended way, rather than lay it out and then ask for a yes/no type of response. Ever notice how labug justs asks you a simple short question on here? It's almost impossible to answer without explaining your inner thoughts. Ask like that. In this case maybe it could be something like. How do you feel about D's decision? Give him no indication of your worries. He may still not bite, but sometimes routines take awhile to break.

Your email response sounded reasonable to me. I would cut sentences like the last one in the future, if you're looking for feedback.