My WAW - coming to terms with it all!

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So today our son started at his new childcare. IT was my W turn to drop him off and after and email or two regarding some other stuff from her I could tell she was a little prickly with me.

I quickly put the pieces together and realised she was probably just anxious about our son being on his own in the new childcare centre which is around the corner from my work.I went around to peek in to see if he was doing okay, but he looked sad and bored. Broke my heart.

I wrote and email to W to say " just snuck around to see S3 and he seems to be doing okay" just to ease her anxiety/ worry.
She wrote back to say whe wasnt sure it was the right place and that it was really hard for her to drop him off and she got to work late.

I sensed she was tense with me about it.
I wrote back an email to validate her feelings and say that we could talk this through in person and consider all the options and that one way or another we would work it out.

I know I should be applying LRT, but with stuff regarding the kids its hard to detach. I want us to work as a team to try and find a resolution but I can feel her resentment that our situation/logistics with the kids has become more difficult now that we are seperated.


Part of me wants to jump up and says "this is what you wanted, this is your choice !!" but i realise thats the old me thats slowly fading out. There is no point in turning this into a blame game, no one wins.

The new me wants to listen to her concerns and try and ignore her agressive tone and move towards finding the best thing for our kids.

Its pretty hard to accept her resentment and look past it. I want her to realise that I am just trying to help and make it work.

I hope our conversation will go well.