Bklyn

[BklynMom]

Update time -

Sorry it took so long.

This Saturday was my D3 princess party. It was amazing! I am so glad you guys encouraged me to have it. The weather was perfect, the kids were adorable and my d3 was beside herself. Both girls are still talking about it.

STBX came to the party but he was like a ghost. His body was there but there was no one there. He basically didnt move from one spot. He chatted with his parents and some parents that made efforts to talk to him. He didn't even distract himself with the awkwardness around the adults by engaging with the kids. It was really eye opening for me.

I was as casual as possible, I chatted with him and his parents for a little while. I tried to be a gracious host and treat him like a random guest.

Sunday night he called to say hi to the girls which I found surprising since he generally calls only once a week at bedtime.

Then later that night he sent me a threating email saying if I didn't agree to mediation and if me and my father didnt stop delaying this we have no choice but to go to court.

His accusations are totally insane. His own lawyer is robbing my H blind and blaming his delaying and over billing practices on me and my Dad. I emailed him back giving him 2 or 3 quick examples of how his lawyer delays and lies then I told him I would be sending him the finalized parenting agreement this week with my signature on it and next week I will send him the finalized finacials with my signature. Then he can decide if he wants to continue or not.

(By the way the email was simple and to the point not angry)

After seeing him at the party, in some ways it really helped me get over him because he is barely a person. I don't understand how anyone could be in a relationship with him.

In other ways it made me super sad because he is such a half-a$$ dad to my amazing daughters.

I have been having more and more moments of pure happiness and thankfulness of my wonderful life.

I can also see how much healthier I am today. How I really short changed myself when I was in a relationship with him trying to please him all the time. I didnt even know I was doing it. And it was futile, he was never going to be happy because he is so unhappy inside.

Love you guys