Taking a step back-a fresh start

[cbtdad]

Hotwheelsaust,
Let me tell you where that came from. It's something I try to remember all the time when I begin to judge wife.
A guy that I am very fortunate to know told me that. He runs the Retrouvaille program here where I live. The first day I had lunch with him he aske me what my biggest fear was. I said, "losing my family of course".
He said, "that's every mans fear. What really scared you?"
I said, "honestly what scares me the most is me pulling a 180 and becoming the best man I can be and her not changing at and me not wanting to be with her anymore"
He said, "that's selfish. Your wife put up with the up with the worst of you for the past 2 years and then you become the best person you can be an dont give her a chance to change. That's extremely selfish"
He said that she would only begin to see her faults and change when she believes and trust that you have changed