You sound disappointed with how this went? These seem to me to be opportunities where you can express your interest in his input, not so much about whether he responds or not. Do you feel you conveyed to him your interest in his input?
I'm not disappointed, it was just what I expected. Maybe I messed that one up, because I just laid out the facts and said something like 'I know it's been hard for you to work so much and I just want to make sure you're aware and on board with d18's plan and the expense'. He just said 'she's knows how much she's getting from us'. I didn't see where there was anywhere else to convey my interest in his input... I dropped it based on his lack of input. If I pried any more it would've seemed like I was stressing about it, which is my default and what he would expect.
I only know he's been responsible by snooping (I ran a credit check on him in March) so I can't really praise that!
My reply email to H about car: "I appreciate you offering and asking my opinion. Very much. I don't know anything about the program you're referring to, is it a good deal? I guess I would be most wondering about payments and how that'd relate to d18's college obligations. But you know me, can't pass up a good sale. Do they have charging at work? D15 hasn't seemed overly anxious for driving or having a car so it's okay either way. Good planning ahead!"
I don't know if that was the right way to navigate this. It doesn't make sense to me to make decisions like this when there's so much up in the air. This is my test to go with the flow.
