Crazy little thing called MLC

[Raine]

Some things in my sitch have changed very dramatically. Some major things have happened with regards to him dropping all OW. He is waking up in a way I have never seen before. I don't know if this is just part of his cycle, and so I have no hope or expectations, and I'm not fully sure of everything going on or that it will stay this course.

His contact with me has escalated big time. Lots and lots of texts, IMs, phone calls. Coming over just to see me, hang out, watch tv.

He has cut off OW 2, 3 & 4. I suspect 1 as well, but not sure. The first night after he left the home again he saw ow4 briefly, and has done nothing with anyone since, that I can tell. He is ignoring OW4, and she has removed all of her FB posts that have anything to do with him and where she liked things on his page. He wouldn't have asked her to do this, because nothing mentioned or tagged him. It was all very obscure, and some of it from months ago. OW2 has been out of the picture for awhile, also ignored. OW3 came into town with the main reason to hook up with him, and he didn't. This has been planned for months. He blew her off and then at the very end when it seemed like he was going to hook up, he just apologized to her and told her he couldn't and he needed to get back to finding happiness in his life. What the what?

After his brief meeting with OW3 to end things, he came over super late, just to hug me, kiss me on the cheek, and tell me not to worry about him and that he is in a good place.

He has taken the kids to Church the last two weeks. I thought he would just go and sit in the hall or go to one of their classes, but he has actual gone to the adult meetings.

I do not get any feeling that he wants to reconnect with me, just that we are best friends. I get more of the sense that he is taking charge of his life and changing things that he is not happy about. I know he feels he has been stagnant, wasting his life for the past 6 months and he needs to take control of it. I have zero sense that this means anything more than getting his life back into a place he isn't so disgusted with himself and taking full ownership of himself. I feel like this may move more towards legal separation not reconciliation. Maybe I'm too much of a realist now.