I always said that out of respect for a 30 relationship and as he is the father of my only child, I would listen if he ever were to want to talk about it.
But I have to tell you, there was so much damage done, and is still being done financially, that it would take an awful lot of work.
And I dont think he's up for it.
This all allowed me to see my marriage in a very different light. And there were many things in it that were not good. Dont get me wrong, I loved him very much and accepted him for who he was.
I owned all of my stuff and then some. He was a very controlling, negative person with very high standards. He could never be wrong and never apologized before the bomb. And as a result, I became very small.
I could never be in a relationship like that again. I have not seen him do any of the work on himself that he needs to do.
If I had to venture a guess, based on some stuff he's said casually, he realizes what he's lost on some level.
