WAS Moving out date 1 May 2012

[Rockwallaby]

Well tough tonight, spouse told S7 and D4 that she is moving to a new house on Saturday. Said might be a surprise for them so they were excited. I was relieved she told them as she had planned to just take them to house. At same time I would have liked to be there.

we then talked about child care arrangements which we agree equally, she wanted to schedule for rest of year, I want a month in advance. Whatever I say she latches onto the negative or takes it as being aggressive self centered behaviour. I worked really hard at being detached yet we still ended in tit for tat conversations so I left the room to separate myself from the sitch.

I still fluffed it though as we could not agree on setting the schedule, she wanted to do it a year in advance and I want to do it month by month. I let myself get drawn into her baiting me about living her life around my schedule and I mentioned her seeing OM. Annoyed at self for falling into trap.

She is finding it very hard but believes that separating is best and her divorced friends have said it is right to do. I can see why MWD says it isn't the answer as you still have to communicate with each other so problem does not disappear.