This may seem like an odd thing to say - but I am thinking about whether the banter and little jokes at each others expense are what may be missing a little. my walking on eggshells has probably stopped me from joking around which I know we used to so a lot of over the years. My w thrives on bit of banter and mockery. It feels like the wrong thing to be doing right now, but maybe that's the right thing to do.
Am I thinking too much about how to please W again, rather than myself?
Try it and monitor results. If she seems receptive, go with it. If not, back off.
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
