Hey J, first of all, dont ever been afraid or doubtful of posting here. That's what this forum is for.
Now I'm not saying you wont hear some opinions about it, but, they are always given with the intent to help in some way.
Just a quick thing about the email. If the intent was to apologize for your past actions, that is not necessarily a bad thing. But you should know she is not ready to really hear it right now.
Right now, she is just trying to get through her stuff. If you did it with an expectation, well, that's not a good idea.
