T, I agree w/UR 100%. No matter how much you are prepared if a S should occur, it will still be tough to hear. I am praying that this doesn't occur. However, know that we are all here to support you along the way.
You have grown so much and you provide such sage advice to all of the posters. You really are an inspiration to everyone. You've been a saint and do have the patience of JOB. God has a plan for you, we just don't know what it is just yet.
Hang in there.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.