The long and winding road

[Raine]

Tvs, you handled that so well! You are amazing. I think OW is desperate. Your H may be pulling away from her and she doesn't have as much control as before. Her talking to you would be a way to try to get back in control. What she wouldn't realize is this would only tick your H off and make him pull further away.

The next thing and probably the only thing you may want to play out in your mind is OW confessing to you. I think you can handle anything else she says just as you did. That is probably the only thing that would throw you off. So if that ever happens, you know how to react.

I've thought about that before in my sitch and it usually ends up with me saying to them, "yes you and half a dozen other insecure women who are desparate enough to be used by a married man. I hope you've been using protection." That always makes me smile but probably not the best approach Oh the things we want to say vs the things we should.