DBing European Style, part 2

[Papa4Life]

Hi guys, thanks for responding. I appreciate your feedback!

I like your last post and I hope all the best for you regarding the mediator meeting. I am not there yet but I already fears it. It will break my heart and I hope to find your strength before it comes to that!

I also think that your sit is quite new compared to how much you have moved...and you can take that as a compliment!

Fartlitre, trust me when I say that if I can do this, YOU can do this. It has taken quite a bit of soul searching and learning from my mistakes to get to this point.

I appreciate your encouraging words. If I've improved at all over these past weeks and months, it is due in large part to the encouragement and feedback I get on these boards. So thanks!!

we all have backslides! Some greater than others I made all the classic mistakes too. One benefit we get from making mistakes is we more clearly see what DOESN'T work

Well then, I have certainly got a good grasp on that now!

Real PMA is MUCH more effective than faking it!

Ain't that the truth. I think that WASs can smell faking it from a mile away

Only she can change her mind, and only time can get her there. There's nothing we can do to speed the process up. We just have to get out of their way and work on ourselves.

Thanks for reinforcing a realization that I've only just recently arrived at. I'm just gonna get out of her way and let her do the work she needs to do.

AnotherStander is my role model, and I'm going to try to emulate him and even think about what he would do

Thank you, that's very kind

I meant every word of it. You've given me so much good advice and encouragement and I appreciate it immensely.

She doesn't mean right after does she? I hope she at least gives it a few days so it doesn't spoil his moment!

No, I think she's planning to tell the kids at the end of May, just before I leave for my visit to the States. We..well, she..planned it that way to make S10's b-day a happy one.

I can even feel sympathy for W in what she's been going through. I could never have said that before, I was too hurt, sad, and scared to even consider her pain -- heck *I* was the victim here, right? Well now I realize that this cuts both ways.

Great, that's a good place to be! If you can respect and acknowledge what your W is going through it puts you in a better position to honestly validate her feelings when she opens up.

I agree with you on this one, and it has been a revelation for me. Plus it's somewhat empowering, because I can look at this situation as something other than something that W is doing to me. She's got her stuff to deal with and I'm just going to get out of her way and let her consider the decision she's about to make.