Working on saving my marriage, again

[labug]

Congratulations on the baby! There are wonderful but they add a new dimension to marriage.

Just a reality check, you have a 4 month old baby, your W is in a very vulnerable place right now.

First of all, what duties have you relieved your W of since the baby was born? Does she work outside the home? Do you have a regular 9-5 or shift work?

Just a couple of options. Instead of getting up at night with her (unless this is something she specifically requested) you sleep and then encourage her to sleep in, if possible, or you come home from work (or whatever) and take over baby duty. Encourage her to take a nap or a bath or whatever she feels like. Talk with her about how you can be most supportive of her. Have you read the Love Languages book? What you think is helpful/loving may not be so for her.

If she isn't breastfeeding, you can get up at night.

I question if you being away more is going to help her feel better about you if it means less support and help with the baby. You might want to reevaluate that 180.


Some men do become depressed after the birth of the baby. Take care of yourself.

Good luck.