We are both 33, married June 2007. 1 Child (F5) together and she has 1 Child (M13) from a previous relationship.
January 2013 she started an EA with a 21 year old friend of her younger brother after he moved 3 hours away.
The fighting over the EA started and progressed to a point where I went to stay at my parents house... and was crawling out of my skin because she started "hanging out" with the OM. February 28 I went home and told her if she wanted out, she needed to leave. She went to stay at her moms house, and came home to "work on it" a few days later.
She claimed to have stopped contact with OM, but I caught her texting him with an app on her phone so I couldn't see it on my phone record.
4/2 she told me she wanted a divorce and has been staying at her moms house at night. She comes over during the day to take care of the kids while I work, and when I get home she leaves.
I've begged, pleaded, cried... all of the wrong things. This past weekend I went out of town for a "guys weekend" and cleared my head. I came home and I am no longer chasing her.
She's 33. No job. No child support for her son. No real "family" support.... alcoholic mom, dad that left her as a baby and comes around now.
I feel sorry for her because she has nothing, and will end up going down a really bad path... which I have to watch. Do I just let her go and move on? I don't want her back in the condition she's in, I want to help her fix the deep issues that bother her and try to rebuild this marriage.
Sorry if the post is choppy - there's so much going upstairs that it's hard to get it all down.
