As I've been telling lots of other DBers lately, constantly reminding W that you want her back is like giving her a safety net that lets her go out and take chances, all the while knowing that you'll be there to catch her if she falls. At least, that is, until she feels confident enough with her new trick to perform it without a net, with all the peril that entails. If you deny her that safety net by detaching, taking the pressure off of her, focussing on you, you force her to really think about the step off the cliff she's about to take. She's got to have space to realize the consequences of the actions she's considering taking.
^^^I like. Thanks papa!
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
