Wii: kat is right. You need to date someone different than what you think is "your type". Some people don't express themselves well. She was probably trying to say she wasn't into one night stands. Well - neither are you. Keep an open mind.
Stop focussing all your energy on the fact SDA Lady is on POF. You broke up with her. She has every right to go on there. Seems it is more about her not going for someone new than the fact she wasn't right for you. You need to work on that anger.
And start looking again. It won't hurt you to meet women for coffee. This is the time to try Starbucks instead of Tim's or go for a mocha latter instead of a medium double double. You might be surprised.
Btw, "She may think the way she was is who she is and needs someone better matched to her personality and doesn't find a need to change." Excellent point, Gineen. And that person she needs is not me!
Had a lovely weekend and most of it was alone. It was probably the best weekend I've had since the breakup. Yesterday I went and sat by the lake reading and in the evening went to our evening church service with some friends. Today I went downtown to watch our Toronto Maple Leaf Baseball team open the season (admission free) with a win, went and browsed a favourite bookstore and at dinner at a Falafel place. Actually the falafel place happened to be the first restaurant I ever took SDA Lady to. It was on our first date, we had lunch and then went to the museum. So the weather was wonderful this weekend and my mood matched it
Wii: Wasn't the weather fantastic? We went from snow here a week ago to hot summer temps. Our water level is slowly going down and we will be able to go boating soon.
Glad you had a nice w/e and enjoyed pleasurable activities. May I suggest not going to places you and she went to. It doesn't help in the separation process. If it didn't bother you - you wouldn't mention it here. At this point - you really need to go to different parks and restaurants - then you will not be focussed on all you did with her.
It's near the bookstore and I used to go there frequently when I was downtown. It just hit me when I was there that our first date was there. I'm not going to stop going there cuz I went with SDA Lady once! Hey, I do still miss her, I can't wipe my memory banks clean. I'm doing the best I can with what I got
The good thing that I have noticed lately is that although I still think of her frequently, I don't have the emotional reaction to those thoughts that I did previously. Now they come and they go. My best friend told me last week that he's actually amazed at how well I've handled this. He says that not once have I talked about having maybe made a mistake or that I should try and get her back. It's true, I haven't. I have those thoughts sometimes but then I ask myself what would be different? She'd still have a stressful, unstable life...do I want another piece of that? No thank you. Would she be more independent and less controlling? No way Jose! So what would be the point? That usually helps when I have those brain cramps. But, in reality, I'm doing OK. I went to the baseball game today. I'd missed the entire season last year because the only day SDA Lady had to date in the summer was Sunday. So, this year I go to the games and enjoy. I do what Whatis wants to do!
Well, Whatis has written and posted his profile...and hidden it. Small steps. It's been nine weeks or so since I broke up with SDA Lady. I just thought it would make sense to have a profile ready at hand in case I do come across someone I'd like to contact. I don't think I'm ready yet but...we'll take it a day at a time. It will be interesting to see what kind of responses it gets when it's used. I've been clear about my faith in this profile and suggested I would like someone who shares that faith. Some of the couples I most admire are people who share and grow in their faith together. My church and my small group are important to me and I can't see myself being with someone who doesn't value faith in some way. I so enjoyed when SDA Lady and I went to church together. I'm not thumping anyone with a Bible just stating what I'd prefer. Kml wants a guy who can get it up (sorry kml, I couldn't let that one get by me lol) and I want a lady who will go down on a pew with me! I'm also busy working up some hot Christian pick up lines like "I gave my heart to Jesus but the rest of me is all yours" or "I'd put my plank in your Ark any day" or "I'm so holy for you!"...OK, maybe not.... I told you I wasn't ready lol.
