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[psluke]

I guess I will go ahead and let him dismiss the divorce. Do you think I am making a mistake?

What do you want? If you want the marriage to work then I would say yes dismiss it.

Let me ask you this, what purpose does it serve to have it sitting out there now? I am NOT familiar at all with TX law, but is all you lose by dismissing it your filing fee and part of the A's retainer fee?

I mean if you decide later you want the D, have you lost anything other than the time you give to trying to make your marriage work and the money you have spent?

Cal asked me very early on when I was mentioning money, she said if I told you if you paid me $5000.00 right now and I could save your marriage she said I bet that $5000.00 wouldn't mean anything to you and somehow, someway you would find it to pay me.

She was absolutely right and ever since then that has put this whole thing in much more perspective for me.

But I am on the other side here and not sure my advice is the best to follow. Plus I don't know if in TX there are other legalities involved in keeping the D case on the books or being the one who files or anything like that, in IN all it means being the one that files is you are the one pays the filing fee and you are the one in charge of the timing of the D. But it doesn't affect the settlement at all.

Plus there is the fact of what dismissing it would say to your H, like I am committed to making this marriage work. Just a thought.