Dm45, you are a strong man. If I ever saw OM one of us is leaving in a body bag. he is half my size and is scared of ever seeing me.
Luckily he lives in another city so I dont have to worry about accidental run in like that. Well, he doesnt have to worry...lol
Me, H-34 now 38 W-32 now 35 T-13 now 18 years M-6 now 9 Daughter 3 years now 7 Bomb 11/27/12 - OM 1 year in house separation Reconciliation 12/2013. Healed now 2017
Last night W wouldn't answer about whereabouts of S16. S16's text answer was "at a friends, coming home tomorrow", would not answer calls or texts after that.
Couldn't get more info out of him, meanwhile texted W to try to get her to get more info.
Finally texted S "if you are ok you need to contact me because I am think of calling police" (he had been out all weekend & I was never sure where he was)
His answer: "I'm with mom" I was shocked. I just texted "you need to come home" and left it at that. No more attempts to him or W since.
Considering going dark...it appears she has already. Anyway im too exhausted to productively communicate with her now anyway.
I've had nothing but the best intentions for this woman for over 21 years. I want to grow old with HER.
Me 46 W 43 S 21 D 18 S 17 M 22 yrs Discovered OM 9/10/12 W moved to sister's 9/15/12 W moved to OM 9/27/12 Tried to DB until 7/13 W filed 10/7/13. Did not serve. I counter filed 12/2/13.
W has attorney. Got letter today asking to use mediator to decide best course of action for S16. What the hell?
I don't even know what she may be thinking.
My brain hurts. I have to work overnight tonight, then C appt tomorrow pm. Will certainly cover this there.
25, you out there? I know you're a lawyer. I'm scared. My state is MD.
Me 46 W 43 S 21 D 18 S 17 M 22 yrs Discovered OM 9/10/12 W moved to sister's 9/15/12 W moved to OM 9/27/12 Tried to DB until 7/13 W filed 10/7/13. Did not serve. I counter filed 12/2/13.
Should I call her? To ask what her intentions are? We have been on friendly terms for nearly the whole time, including last we talked...
Me 46 W 43 S 21 D 18 S 17 M 22 yrs Discovered OM 9/10/12 W moved to sister's 9/15/12 W moved to OM 9/27/12 Tried to DB until 7/13 W filed 10/7/13. Did not serve. I counter filed 12/2/13.
I already have absolutely nothing, except a business that makes next to nothing and a house I can't pay for without her help and a broken broken heart.
Me 46 W 43 S 21 D 18 S 17 M 22 yrs Discovered OM 9/10/12 W moved to sister's 9/15/12 W moved to OM 9/27/12 Tried to DB until 7/13 W filed 10/7/13. Did not serve. I counter filed 12/2/13.
Don't know if she has filed. Letter dated 4/26, 2 days before the interaction. I had actually spoken with her on the phone briefly about S16 yesterday, and she didn't even act like she knew I saw OM. Friendly, almost.
L has not returned call.
Letter:
Re: Our client, W
Please be advised that your W has retained the services of this firm with respect to the above-referenced matter. She and I have had a thorough discussion of the various issues that confront the two of you with respect to the situation and we believe that initial focus needs to be on reaching a mutual decision with respect t what arrangements are best for S16 at this time.
Your W and I further agree that it would be appropriate to engage the services off Mediator to assist in this regard. Tnat individual would not make decisions about what would be best for the family, but would be responsible for helping the two of you work toward an agreement yourselves. This is certainly preferential to a Judge, or some other third party, being placed in a position to have to make these sorts of decisions.
I would appreciate hearing from you sometime within the next 10 days so that we can hopefully move forward with this process. There are a number of well qualified Mediators in this area who have substantial Family Law experience and possess the qualifications necessary to work with us. Obviously, feel free to provide this letter to an attorney of your own choosing for a response.
I hope to herrera from you shortly so we can begin the process of working toward an amicable solution.
Sincerely, L
Me 46 W 43 S 21 D 18 S 17 M 22 yrs Discovered OM 9/10/12 W moved to sister's 9/15/12 W moved to OM 9/27/12 Tried to DB until 7/13 W filed 10/7/13. Did not serve. I counter filed 12/2/13.
L says why pay $1,000s for mediator to when we haven't even tried to talk it out ourselves.
Says it looks like to him she will file.
Says she gets him out of house, then abandons us financially, sues for child supports, etc.
Don't think he knows S20 lives here with me too.
Me 46 W 43 S 21 D 18 S 17 M 22 yrs Discovered OM 9/10/12 W moved to sister's 9/15/12 W moved to OM 9/27/12 Tried to DB until 7/13 W filed 10/7/13. Did not serve. I counter filed 12/2/13.
L also said to cool my jets and don't try to reach her today.
Me 46 W 43 S 21 D 18 S 17 M 22 yrs Discovered OM 9/10/12 W moved to sister's 9/15/12 W moved to OM 9/27/12 Tried to DB until 7/13 W filed 10/7/13. Did not serve. I counter filed 12/2/13.
