My Story - Need Advice (Thread 2)

[Papa4Life]

Hi Chris, I saw your post and thought I'd add my 2 cents. It does sound like she's rethinking things. It sounds like focussing on yourself and "acting as if" is doinng the trick and giving her the room she needs to really think about things. Good for you.

As an outsider whose not fully familiar with your sitch though, I would probably want to encourage you not to be overly enthusiastic right now. For one thing, it could be temporary, in which case you'd be setting yourself up for a letdown. On the other hand, if she's serious about it, rushing right in might make her feel as if you want to brush over all the changes that would still have to be made to have a healthier R in the future. Baby steps are what is called for right now. Keep listening and validating and most of all give yourself and your W time. Be patient. I'm keeping my fingers crossed for you guys.