I have a rather pesky headache today, but I was reading Sage's latest series of posts and had the weirdest sense of deja vu... I could not resist posting.

I continue to live in a sort of emotional limbo. My H has been very much with us all the weekend, and even cleaned out the garage, where years of junk saved from multiple moves seemed to have taken up residence. He called multiple times during the day and asked me how to organize his work so that he'd spend more time with us. He even came back in the middle of the day and had lunch with us. And he told me he had changed the problem accounts to our joint CFA.

I have had however a certain uneasiness, which I think is based on my perception of some of his behavior. I am wondering whether he is not slipping back into some old tricks. Of course, it could all be my fears; I am really not sure of whether this is real or just overreacting to perceived slights, but I've chosen not to do anything about it and see what happens:

1. A couple of times during the weekend he made some fairly sarcastic comments about my not having done stuff. I did feel disrespected (and two minutes later, I heard a radio program on how sarcasm more than anger was a predictor of failure in marriage)

2. We went shopping together and he got all defensive when I made an innocent comment (aboout plastic forks, of all things).

3. Our has dwindled to twice a week or so. (I know, I know, I should not complain... but he!! in retrospect, it has been a reliable indicator of how he feels about us)

4. He acts impatient and jumpy

5. He has not talked at all about his scheduled doctor's appointment (of which I know because I snooped, of course. Every so often I do a small "spotcheck" just in case).

Anyway, I have not commented on anything and gotten on with my life, but at times I wonder if that is the correct way to go or I am ignoring trouble signals... He seemed to get over things better when I did not react, though...

Why do I like to second guess things?

"You don't throw a whole life away just 'cause it's banged up a little" Tom Smith in "Seabiscuit"