Time for the Loop the Loop on this rollercoaster!

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MrBond, you raise some very interesting points. I re read your post several times to let it sink in.

I think people are not wrong. I was not receptive to some of the suggestions people had. And I think it may be due to the fact that I am somewhat arrogant, but also because I never really explained the things that my wife suggested for my business. So I look like a real jack &ss!

I did go along with my wife on several ideas even though I had a hunch they would not pan out the way she thought.

For example she had a GREAT idea for a TV commercial. My wuestion, as a businessman, was how do we fund it? I gave her full control to look at and change both our business budget or our personal budget to free up the funds,needed.

After she examined it, she found a way to fund production. I said ok but what about airing it? She said we will worry about that when its time.

She had an awesome TV ad made which I love. I told her repeatedly how much I was proud and thankful for hsving her.

But then she couldnt find the Money to air it. So it became my fault.

I kind of led myself into that trap even though I could seeit coming. I eanted so badly for her to be a part of,my business. I saw her bored with her life and wanted her to be excited about something.

But in the end I was the problem because I couldnt find a way to get it on TV.

However, I do need to learn to listen to other peoples suggestions. I will admit that.

It ties in with who I used to be and who I have become. I used to listen and weigh out the pros and cons and then implement something that was usually a combinstion of the suggestions of others, and my own idea. I think after having so many projects fail, I have subconciously decided I am only listening to myself. And that is not the way to be.

I will think about the points you made and see if I can put my finger on why that happened and how I can change that.

As far as changing that with my wife, I have been extremely aware of it with her. When purchasing the new business, I gave her the final word ss to if it was a good venture.

I have invited her to re design the interior of it sinve she is an interior designer. But she has yet to stop by to take a look at what needs to be done.

Im trying very hard to listen to her suggestions. Im trying hard to listen to your suggestions. I am trying to get back to being that person I was at 21 who took in all the suggestions he could get. its tough changing a habit you developed as a defense mechanism against financial loss.

Mrbond I appreciate your insight. how can I fix this part of way? Could I practice listening to people and trying.their ideas in small every day situations? How can I learn to not discount someone elses idea?