Opt, Well, if you are stupid, we all are stupid. We all are either waiting until we've had enough, or waiting for them to get their heads screwed back on... neither is an optimum situation, but until we say enough is enough, we have to remain hopeful that our lives WILL work out.
I am encouraged by lostlove's thread... it seems it took forever for her to be happy... (and still wonder if she would agree with that assessment). Time, it seems, does heal, both you and he. Such a large wound as the one in your home surely deserves plenty of recovery time.
Hang in there.
PS Got my tomatoes, cucumbers, strawberries, herbs planted. Just need to hurry and cover them before the deer find them.
Relax. Appreciate. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Be loved. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful.