OK, I gotta tell you, that last line that she said just pisssed me the hel! off.
You know, T, she is messed up in the head. But they often are.
I am not surprised you h got angry. I pretty much knew he would. Too freakin' bad on him. Of course he doesnt feel good ever. Hello? You're doing the wrong thing.
Not sure how this is going to play out. My feeling is that she is not too happy and this is going to put a kink in the whole thing.
You did beautifully, T. You just keep being wonderful you.
This morning, I have 2 burning questions on my mind...
1. Why now? What is going on with OW and/or their R that she wanted to talk to me now?
And...
2. What is going to happen next? What does she have up her sleeve?
T, you say that you don't know if you would do as well faced with OM. The weird thing is, for all the times that I have pictured them together, I didn't at all during our conversation. Instead I thought things like (and please do not judge me for the shallowness of the following statements), "I am so much prettier than her" and "man, does that shirt make her look huge" and "she could never be me".
Because let's be honest, she could never be me.
Will let you guys know any interesting updates - thanks so much again
Bomb January 2012 - doesn't feel the same about me
~ "There is nothing love cannot face; there is no limit to its faith, hope, and endurance."
I thought things like (and please do not judge me for the shallowness of the following statements), "I am so much prettier than her" and "man, does that shirt make her look huge" and "she could never be me".
HaHaHaHa!!
Tvs, that's just hilarious! I like you TOO much! You're so honest!
I sort of had a similar feeling when I saw the two girls at the music festival this weekend. The first one I kept thinking, "I can't believe how much makeup she has on!" It really showed in the sunlight, although she did have a cute figure and obviously was very interested in my H (this was the needy one).
The second one, I kept thinking, "she's not nearly as pretty as the pics on FB" and "she definitely has some huge jowls" (she had been obese and lost a lot of weight) but she was obviously smart and very personable.
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H seemed good when saying goodnight.
Do you think they "broke up"? Maybe her anniversary was a catalyst?
Maybe it is a relief for H even if he felt angry at times when discussing the convo. It's gotta be awful to never ever feel good and have this huge weight of deceit he is carrying in addition to his poor health.
What if he is looking at you like, "Tvs is so much prettier than OW." and...."that shirt makes Tvs look awesome." and..."OW could never be Tvs!" Lol! Lol!
Really...you don't know....my H said he "looked" out there and nobody had the qualities that he wanted that he found in me. So you KNOW they ARE comparing!
Hope you have a GREAT day! Walk on the clouds, Tvs, you should...you're an angel
Me54/H47 '08 H is "done" March '12 H moved out Brink of D, December '12 2014 totally reconciled! ...... "I firmly believe in the...absolute possibility of marriage renewal." Jim Conway
I think the ow isn't happy that your h is still living at home and has not separated from you. I think she planned the entire meet up to see just where things where at home and now she's hoping that you and your h will begin to argue and you either boot him out or he gets so frustrated he will leave.
T, sit quietly...a storm is brewing...allow this to play out. The ow is putting pressure on your h and he's either going to continue down the merry path like he has been or he's going to erupt like Mt. Etna against her for the pressure.
Continue as you have been and do not worry...you are the prize and she can never be anything like you...not ever.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
I'll have some of what tvs is taking. She's one cool customer. You know that had to chap ow's tail. She was hoping you'd get down on her level, but you stayed on the high road.
Pure awesomeness!!
M - 42 W- 37 S's - 9,6 M-12 T-14 FIL- diagnosed with fatal disease spring 2011 ILYBNILWY - march '12 FIL - died jan '13 W Moved out week later
T, I envy your patience...I wish had an ounce of it. I approach everything like a bull in a china shop! My mouth starts talking before my brain has a chance to catch up
She is tryîng to see where you guys are, she wants to be no.1 and she wants to see where you are...take it as a compliment your a huge threat to her!!!
That b!tch is lower than a snake and it crawls on its belly
M 41 H 43 M 22 S 18 S 14 D 11 Affair discovered 1/12 He filed 2/12 OW#2 7/12 she lives next door. D pending
Snodderly and UW ~ I have been sensing a shift in things for awhile now, and think she is definitely becoming more desperate. As the sinking ship of their R keeps going down, I think she will pull out all the stops to keep it afloat.
I am trying to prepare myself for the worse-case scenario, which is that H will want a S and leave. In my heart, I feel the time for this has passed, but you never know. If he wants to go that route, I will ask for a separation agreement. I am not going to fool around about this.
If he wants a life with OW, he can have one, I can't stop him. But it's certainly not going to be the fantasy life he imagined.
He loses me. And I'm not sure he understands the full implications of this.
rH ~ I had to laugh when I read your post! I'm not going to pretend I am above petty insults when it comes to OW. I feel like she made her adulterous bed, and she can freakin lie in it.
After I talked to OW, I thought about a line from a song you had posted awhile ago...
"You got to know when to hold them, know when to fold them"
That's exactly what I did with her sneaky a$$ yesterday!
And I had to laugh at the scenario you made of what H may be thinking when he looks at me. This morning, as he was leaving, he made a comment that he liked the color green on my shirt. And I assure you, it did not make me look huge
M-man ~ hi and thanks! make no mistake, this all still hurts. But, time has given me strength and the fortitude to get through. It is still baffling to me that my friend could betray me like this, and be so incredibly cruel and self absorbed.
I will do my best to never stoop down to her level. She is such a waste.
Caigy ~ patience is tough, no doubt! She is definitely becoming more paranoid and insecure as time goes on and the shininess of their R has worn off.
You're right, she is lowlier than a snake - and sneakier too!
Even though H is still involved with her, I believe he may be beginning to question some of his choices.
All I can do is keep being the best me. And if he's lucky, he may get to keep the best thing that happened to him
Bomb January 2012 - doesn't feel the same about me
~ "There is nothing love cannot face; there is no limit to its faith, hope, and endurance."
