Working on saving my marriage, again

[Lonely Room]

Hello T1000, thank you for your comments!

We did have a couple of chats about the situation where my wife admitted that both of us haven't been good with the other and that we have to work on it. My previous post was mostly about myself, my faults, but I know that when problems happen in a relationship it's seldom the fault of just one.

I am afraid of us talking too much about the situation because I know she doesn't feel good talking about these things. And the more she talks and thinks about it, the more scenarios she creates and she feels trapped. So, I decided to speak with actions, like I did before.

I have much more to lose now than I had before and I think my wife knows that. Just the idea of not being able to bath, cuddle and kiss my son everyday, terrifies me. I don't know how I would cope with that.

This is all very new, not the situation but the changes in my mind to notice the problems and what has been happening in the recent past. I might be too negative, and seeing bad things where there's still hope and work to be done.

But I did notice that my wife is more distant, colder, that she doesn't have much patience for me. And those are really important alert signs.

Thank you again.