Working on saving my marriage, again

[T1000]

It looks like you are scared the same thing will happen again and with good cause.

A newborn can be so tough. It's draining for everyone. Could she have post natal depression?

I wouldn't expect passionate hugs and kisses until her mind is in a good place and it sounds like it isn't right now.

Your supporting her and being a better you. It's good that she said
"we should become better with each other before moving."
She has noticed a problem and wants it to be better.

Have you spoke to her about how you feel? I get the feeling from your post that you havent discussed it much with her?
She isn't a WAW at this moment in time, don't be scared to talk to her.

This is all just my opinion. Hopefully a veteran will comment soon.