My stbx is not trying to re-connect, yet every time she contacts me the hairs on my neck still stand up.
I used to want answers. Now, I just want to be left alone. I am not interested in answers. I'm not interested in finding out how much she hurt. Because I'm not interested in opening old wounds.
I still don't trust myself... when it comes to her.
I know that Val put herself out there and accepted a "tea talk". She was very brave and she handled it very well. And even though I think it was very difficult for Val to consider, it sounds like things are working well for her to reconnect.
I'd be crap scared to get back into the "same old", if something like that were to happen. Yet, as we say around here, it is impossible to happen, since WE have changed. The sitch... THAT sitch... could not happen again. At least, not if we have made permanent, positive changes in ourselves.
If you don't want to re-connect with your ex at this time, I completely understand.
