Thanks Urworthy! You always have the right words at the right time. I like how you say this reality right now. That's a great way to look at it. Doesn't mean it's going to be like this or feel like his forever. Interesting new twist. It turns out that OM does have a girlfriend. I guess he is having his cake and eating it as well. I just don't understand my wife right now at all, but these are her choices and what he is deciding and I can't do anything about it:)
M 37 W 30 S 7 Together 10 years Married 9 years BD: 12/12/12(W filed same day) I moved to apartment 1/11/13 W and S moved to MIL 1/11/13 Peicing: 6/3/13 Reconciled: 7/2013 BD2: 4/20/16 still working on it